Jake has been around the Glamour magazine offices since 1956, doling out advice to single women. Many men have shared his name, and the title can be held only as long as the man giving the advice is still single.

Well, one Jake in particular had to hang up his columnist hat recently, but he has continued to share his wisdom with a new book. Always Hit on the Wingman … And 9 Other Secret Rules for Getting the Love Life You Want offers 10 great tips that will help women relax and learn to love the dating game.

This advice about hitting on the friend of the person you’re interested in is great, but I’m wondering if you could offer additional advice about fending off the slightly misled wingman.

Eye contact. It’s all about eye contact. While you’re making chit-chat with his nice but neutered friend, give your target the odd glance. You don’t need to shoot arrows directly into the target’s bull’s-eye, just send a few warning shots his way. Let him know his friend doesn’t have all your attention.

Men say that they love to be hit on, but there’s the school of thought that insists that men want to be the ones to chase. Thoughts?

We definitely love to chase. That doesn’t mean we don’t want to be hit on. This back-and-forth defines the art of flirting – and to some extent, the art of dating. It happens from the very first glance (who looks at who first?) to the first intimate moment (who undresses who?). It’s the world’s most complicated and hilarious and maddening and sexy game of tag. You’re it.