Siggy Flicker knows there’s another popular TV matchmaker out there, but she’ll be the first to tell you that that’s where their similarities end.

“I am the opposite of the Millionaire Matchmaker,” said Flicker, the star of VH1′s Why Am I Still Single?!

“She annoys the hell out of me. First off, I was married to a millionaire, and I left all that behind, got divorced in search of chemistry and love, and I found it with a car salesman. I don’t believe in (excluding love) to just the Millionaire’s Club.

“There’s nothing more important than chemistry.”

We got Flicker’s top tips for meeting and keeping the man or woman of your dreams.

MEETING SOMEONE

Be open to love
“If you watch somebody walking out of an office building today, they’re usually on their iPod, on their cellphone, on their BlackBerry – I say first of all, look up. There is no specific place to meet somebody. Stand tall and open up your eyes to your surroundings. It’s all about the energy you’re giving off. If you’re closed off and texting, your shoulders are shrugged and you’re looking down – you’re giving the message that you are not available. If you’re single, honey, enjoy the fact that you’re single. Walk tall, walk straight, keep yourself open.”

Break your routine
“Go out at least twice a week. It should be more important than your full-time job. What’s more important, money or love? I say love. So twice a week go out. It doesn’t have to be to a bar – a bar is my least (recommended choice). Get out of the bubble. So many people have a routine; I say break the bubble twice a week. Take a class on something that you’ve always been passionate about – it could be ballroom dancing, it could be pole dancing.”

Choose your wingmen/women wisely
“If you’re single, do not go out with other singles. Why (allow for) competition? Go out with your friends who are married or in healthy, committed relationships. Take somebody who’s on your side, who’s gonna help you seal the deal.”

KEEPING SOMEONE

Keep the beginning easy-breezy
“Your first date should be what do you do for a living, what do you like to do when you’re not working. You talk about things that are light. You do not talk about past relationships, you do not talk about sex, what positions you like in bed, you don’t talk about politics. Don’t talk about your ex, your expectations – don’t talk about anything that has to do with the past.”

Practice good table manners
“It should go without saying, but unfortunately, it doesn’t. … A lot of people don’t have table manners. If you don’t know how to eat … with your mouth closed, we gotta practice.”

Maintain eye contact
“I had a client, all he did was look at his napkin. That comes from fear of rejection. Who cares? I always say a man’s rejection is God’s protection, a woman’s rejection is God’s protection.

“If somebody doesn’t want you, who cares? You move on.”

Have a positive attitude
“I have so many Dan and Debbie Downers,” she says. It’s especially important to stay upbeat even if you’re not feeling a connection.
“Don’t shut down right away because (your date) is a person of value, and you might learn (about) something like a new book, a new place to travel to, or, guess what? That person can walk away and say, ‘You know what, I didn’t really have a good time on my date, but I know two other single guys in my office who would really dig her.’”

Let go of unrealistic expectations
“We all want the same thing, but when you limit yourself to what the physicality of somebody is you’re shutting off so many doors. (After my divorce) I went on date after date until I found the lid to my pot, which turned out to be a bald car salesman who I’m in love with.”