After the recent publication of a number articles slamming the Vancouver dating scene, Executive Search Dating founder and owner Paddi Rice drew on his experience to start brainstorming simple solutions to Vancouver’s “so-called dating dilemmas” and posted them on his blog. They have been republished here with permission, and edited for length.
Challenge #1: Singles don’t often approach strangers in Vancouver.
Solution: Waiting to be approached in Vancouver is a recipe for prolonged singledom. Practice saying hello to strangers (yes, practicing in front of a mirror at home does work); smile and make eye contact with people in social places; say a friendly “hello” to everyone you meet, single or otherwise.
Challenge #2: Vancouver singles often socialize in large groups, making it more daunting to approach someone you are interested in.
Solution: A crowded bar or lounge on a busy weekend night is not the best way to meet someone new in any city. If, however, you do find yourself in this setting then focus on having fun and being positive and open. This is an alluring quality in any venue. Avoid sitting in a large booth surrounded by people that you already know; aim to sit at a stand up or shared table and leave a few stools free for someone new to join; and get your drinks from the bar where you’ll mingle with some new people along the way.
Challenge #3: Vancouver singles, particularly in the summer months, tend to prefer outdoor venues and activities vs. indoor venues like bars and restaurants, making it hard to meet them.
Solution: Mix up your routine! Join a summer co-ed volleyball or softball league; take some Latin dance classes; attend some wine tastings, cooking classes and art gallery openings; do your weekly shopping in a different neighbourhood; hire a matchmaker! Being proactive in dating, and in life, will always get you the best results.